Thursday, 13 August 2015

#Let'sTalkAbout-- Depression

I'm a Psychology student. One of my family members suffered from Depression. None of us have any feeling of guilt or embarrassment in talking about it. Depression has nothing to do with how strong one is, rather the strongest are those who admit to need of help and not they, who sit around and declare them to me mad. In India, there are social stigmas attached to several things one of which is depression. Why? I ask. When there is no stigma around having any physical disease then why is having a curable mental illness stigmatized?
Friends try to brush away the topic or at declare one to be attention-hungry and thus "Doing drama". But Depression is not drama, nor is it seeking attention, it is not anything an ill-informed prejudiced person tells you; It is-
A depressive disorder is an illness that involves the body, mood, and thoughts. It interferes with daily life, normal functioning, and causes pain for both the person with the disorder and those who care about him or her.
A depressive disorder is not the same as a passing blue mood. It is not a sign of personal weakness or a condition that can be willed or wished away. People with a depressive illness cannot merely "pull themselves together" and get better. Without treatment, symptoms can last for weeks, months, or years. Depression is a common but serious illness, and most people who experience it need treatment to get better. Appropriate treatment, however, can help most people who suffer from depression.
Depression can sometimes occur without any apparent cause, other times it may be triggered by a traumatic experience. Studies also blame certain genes for pre-disposing people to depression. 

India has the most number of depressed people in the World, it also has the highest Suicide rate in the world. As early as 2011, 36% of the nation was suffering from Depression, in 2012 over 2,50,000 individuals committed suicide. And yet, talking openly about depression is a taboo in the country. While people have no qualms in visiting a doctor when they have cold n cough, people hesitate largely to visit a psychologist when they feel they have a mental ailment as they consider it to be a fruit of their own minds and thoughts thus holding themselves responsible.
Indians, generally, do not wish to discuss the topic of depression due to the outdated orthodox belief that if someone is suffering from it he/she must be mad. Many people are apprehensive about consulting a doctor for their mind, as they are afraid of being judged not only by the society at large but also by their own family members.
This however needs to be changed. The topic of Depression needs to be de-stigmatized.
Depression is just another disease, and like any other ailment can be cured by medicines if one consults a doctor at the right time. The hush-hush discussions about depression need to be done openly without any shame. The patients needs to be convinced that it is not their fault, and that having depression does not imply that they are mad. We need to broaden our mindsets to accommodate the simple fact that mental ailments are not a cause for ostracizing people or to gossip about them. Mental ailments need to accepted like any physical ailment would be, and be treated.
A nation of 1.2 billion people deserves to talk openly about mental illnesses the way it would about any physical illness.

Monday, 29 June 2015

Back From The Break

Hey guys! Its been so long since I posted something. My last post was in April, after I had my board exams, then I was basically relaxing and relaxing. Break's still on but I can stay away from blogging no more... How have you guys been? let me know in the comments!
I've had several moments when I thought I want to blog about this or that, but I forgot soon enough. I'm telling you, if you don't code your ideas the moment they occur to you, you'll lose them.

There are still a couple of things I'd like to share.

My boards went great. I'm so happy with my results- I beat my old score and that's all that matters to me. Everyone I know has been so appreciative and proud, however I couldn't have done it without them. Sometimes we let success knock out common sense and replace it with useless pride and arrogance, I refuse to do that to myself. Especially because I know that when I was sick, I had people taking care of me, when I got hospitalized people came to visit me, motivate me and put the belief in me that I was gonna give my pending exams and perform amazingly. That was Needed. The day the scores came out I was in a train traveling to my uncle's place to give them a surprise visit, so when my best friend rang I was expecting a declaration of my results in percentage, but the news was different. Apparently I had topped, I don't know why i didn't rejoice, I wasn't sad but then I wasn't jubilant about it too. Indifferent is the word. I just sat there and smiled, that's how happy I was, only a smile. when I now think about it I think it was because my goal was never to beat person X or Y but to beat my own previous score and having done that all other laurels were inconsequential to my personal happiness.



My friends complain I don't contact them- but do they? I'm the kind of person who will climb all the stairs at the railway station despite being strongly advised against it if I have a friend to see off. I did that too. It's just that I'm at a point where I believe that the people who want to be in my life will always find a way to, and those who don't- will always find excuses to blame me for the failed relationship with them . I'm not saying I'm against communication, I'm just saying that it does not always need to be me who has to communicate, you can do it too. I'm not going to call you if you don't pick up my call or call back after seeing my many missed calls. Also I don't like negative people in my life there is absolutely no space for them. I've met people who'll bitch about their supposed best friend and then when you raise a truthful issue about how distant they are from each other will say "We are closer than we appear" . Yeah, right. These people live in Garbs of Pretension and will criticize any thing anyone else does. I've realized now that one doesn't need to be loved widely as much one needs to be loved deeply. I have a very small group of friends whom I absolutely love (and they do too), I am oblivious to the rest of the world- I don't care if someone is partying in Switzerland or calling me kiddish. Firstly they don't know me well enough to be true, Secondly their verdict doesn't makes me something I'm not or take away from me some quality I have. It only proves how important my existence is to them. I give important people importance, only.




Another funny thing that happened to me showed me how inadequate people feel about themselves. I have this childhood acquaintance who gave the board exams this year along with me. When the results came I happily told her about mine, and so did she. Much later I figured out that she was lying about her results- She had gotten much lower than she actually told everybody. I never said a word to anyone, how could I if it maintained her peace? She never congratulated me about my results, it was okay. Then yesterday while I was shaking hands with one of my ex-classmates who referred to me as Topper, she butt in and tried to paint a poorer picture of me and my marks. I didn't retort, i didn't even look at her but at that moment I realized how inadequate, unhappy she was with her life. Running down people and lying about her own reality kept her happy, What a Pity. She had no constructive source of happiness and found pleasure living a fake life so that she could paint a prettier picture of herself to the world. Such people need to be handled well, or even better- ignored. live your life guys, don't bother about barking dogs who seldom bite.







                                                   Have a Great day !

Wednesday, 1 April 2015

Six Random Things About Me

1. I might be the president of the USA some time 
Going by the fact that four out of the last five US presidents were lefties, I might end up in the Oval Office too but that is after assuming that US will be willing to change its laws about future naturalized citizens being eligible to run for President-ship just for my sake.

2. starts with Q, ends with A
I love love love Quora. it has answers to almost anything you want! Want to know why eating chocolate makes us happy or what are some stupid and illogical ideas we have blindly copied from the west? Ask Quora. Also the whole site is free from rude and anger filled youngsters posting slang or countering your view for just the sake of it.

3. You might not always find me on Facebook
I find Facebook restrictive. I know, I know it makes no sense but then I DO find it restrictive like why do I just have an option to 'like' something? Why cant I love it or hate it? Why do I have to know about what's happening in others lives from a website and not from the person in person? I often deactivate my account and after Quora I deactivate it Very often.

4.I'm not a party person
Just the fact that I spent my new year shut in my house, reading poetry should be enough but that's not all! When my friends were (and are) actively making plans about outings I told them blatantly that if I was sleeping at the time of the action Do Not Wake Me Up. yeah, I'm that weird. But if it were a poetry reading or something like a trip to the library or to ANY sports field I'd be ready in no time.

5.  I like mountains, snow, and cold weather
That's supposed to be self explanatory now!

6. I love sports, any sport
Name it and i already love it... Except maybe rugby and WWE (if that's a sport). I might not be able to predict successfully which team will win the next Football World Cup but I'll never ever be so ignorant that I make Manchester United win the World Cup (you get what i mean?) And well in lawn tennis, I might even tell you the next grand slam winners.
  

Friday, 16 January 2015

Travel, Just Travel.

Travel my dear child, from this end of the world to the other,
and then realize that there is no end- the world is round.

Travel meet new people and hear their stories and realize that everyone though has different embellishments the emotions are same.Travel, climb mountains, ford streams, chase rainbows
and then realize the climb is the same.
Travel, breathe in the air of different places, of cold lands and that of hot ones and then realize that you just breathe it in,
Travel, wear different dresses and accessories, roam around in them, then realize that every cloth is for covering one's body
Travel, learn new languages, speak them, realize that they express the same emotions in every language.

Travel, play new games and indulge in varied sports and then realize that all of them are for the purpose of human fitness and entertainment,
Travel, see new roads and lanes, follow them or let them follow you endlessly, and realize that they take you only where you want to go, all of them.
Travel, look out at the trees, observe their minute differences, then realize how man everywhere has used them to his own benefit,
Travel, look at the different animals, see them walk around, realize all exist for the purpose of existing,
Travel, see different lands, high and low, and realize that ultimately you walk on them or at least desire to.

Travel, go to new countries, live in their environment,  then realize that no country is free from troubles and all of them are trying to tackle them,
Travel, see new pieces of art, appreciate them, and realize that they are all expressions of human intellect and are all inter twined,
Travel, eat different foods, relish them, and then realize that they all exist to satisfy man's hunger.

Travel, see buildings, malls, schools, shops, realize their importance in our everyday life.
Travel, look at the mountains, rivers, falls, clouds, feel them and realize that nature has its own way of expressing its love and intellectual capacities.

Travel my dear child, feel new emotions, make memories, capture them.
Let them become a part of the mosaic that you are.

And then realize they made you a richer and better person.